How to handle Child Tantrums?

A rocket puts a satellite in orbit and then burns up coming back to earth. The satellite keeps rotating permanently. Antano uses this to explain the difference between the temporary states you create in a child and the permanent ones that are installed. Tantrums are not a state management problem. They are an attitude problem. These are completely different interventions.

Handling child tantrums through anchors and high states addresses the behavior without addressing what is generating it. The permanent change comes from addressing the underlying attitude, the child's relationship to the situation, not the situation itself. That is the satellite. Once it is in orbit, it stays.